Wednesday, January 12, 2011

My list: What is great about real girlfriends!

What's great about real girlfriends?

  1. They like to talk about what you like to talk about
  2. They really listen to what you're saying and hear what you're saying
  3. They don't moan at your creative or feminine side
  4. They notice when you fix your hair or wear something new
  5. They are generous and help you out of scrapes
  6. They forgive you when you are a moron
  7. They don't say, "You look like you're putting on weight".
  8. They don't ask, "How old are you?"
  9. They tell you when you're undone or something is hanging out
  10. They are willing to come play with you when you're bored or lonely
  11. They aren't expecting you to be perfect in everything you do
  12. They don't want to watch TV when you want to talk
  13. They think like you
  14. They don't think it's weird when you cry
  15. They have purses with stuff you might need in them
  16. When you're with them it's like being with a living human
  17. They need you
  18. They lose their tempers and blow up at you (because they are just like you)
  19. They have children who drive them up the wall (just like you)
  20. They have husbands who drive them up a wall (just like you)
  21. They share their love of God with you (even when their faith is different)
  22. They will let you pray for them
  23. They will pray for you
  24. They will give their honest opinion if you ask for it
  25. They may give you more than you want when you ask for it
  26. They will tell you "no" when you ask and they can't do whatever you've asked
  27. They have time for you or will set aside time for you if you really need them
  28. They like to go to lunch and sit longer than just the time it takes to consume food
  29. They don't rush you when you're shopping
  30. They don't steal your husband (I speak from experience)
  31. They may or may not talk about you behind your back (hey I'm being real here)
  32. They love color, style, fragrance, bling, ruffles, frills, beauty, music, comfort
  33. They comfort you when you're aching
  34. They let you vent (but not too long)
  35. They don't smell like a mechanic
  36. They don't smell like an athlete (at least not when they are with you)
  37. The ones who exercise don't stick it in your face
  38. The ones who never gain weight don't rub it in your face either
  39. They giggle
  40. They tell you about sales
  41. They give you cards that say nice things about you
  42. They give you things you like because they know you well enough to do so
  43. They will travel long distances to be with you
  44. They will bring you soup when you're sick
  45. They will stand up for you when someone is ugly about you
  46. They don't hold grudges or unforgiveness for things you did years or even months ago
  47. They aren't afraid to hug you
  48. They aren't afraid of being hugged
  49. They don't want to watch manly, kind of manly things
  50. They will sit and drink a cup of hot tea with you
This is my list. I'm feeling extra blessed today after spending a couple hours with some real girlfriends last night. Real girlfriends are so wonderful and just because someone says they are a friend doesn't mean they are. They have to have some important things to be real friends. For me honesty and integrity are paramount, but perfection is not. I've suffered through horrific friendships and I've learned that not everyone is really a friend. The biggest clue to me that someone is NOT a friend is blatant flattery. Kind words are different than flattery.

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